O, The Things People Say (and Our Big News!)

Now that we've told our families, our friends, AND our Facebook "friends" (plus entered into the second trimester), I figured it's about time for a blog post...

Yes, we are expecting Baby LeFeber #4!!!! And we are SUPER EXCITED!!! I'm due early August (would that be the week of band camp, Nathan's busiest week of the entire year?!? Um, yes. Were we in Ethiopia during band camp last August?!? Um, yes. At least we're consistent... :)).


O, the things people say (and I'm sorry if you're one of the people who said any of the following comments, and now I'm mocking you...be assured, you are forgiven!)...

Comment #1 (and by far, the most popular so far) - "Oh, you're pregnant! I hear that happens a lot right after people adopt!"

Polite Response to #1 - "Yes, I'm sure it does happen that way for some people..."

What I Really Want to Say to #1 - "Actually, we chose to prevent conception by using super annoying condoms every time we had sex for a year and half because the adoption agency we were using did not allow adoptive parents to become pregnant during their adoption journey or the entire adoption would be finished and all of the time, energy, and money we had put in would be lost."

Comment #2 (in 2nd place) - "This must be such a SURPRISE for you!"

Polite Response to #2 - "God's timing isn't always our own..."

What I Really Want to Say to #2 - "Um, no. It really wasn't a surprise to us at all. When a man and a woman have sex without using protection, it is fairly common knowledge that they may conceive a child. We both learned about this amazing phenomena in health class some time ago, and knew that when we stopped using those super annoying condoms, a baby would likely be the result."

Comment #3 - "Now your family will be complete."

Polite Response to #3 - "Well, we haven't made any final decisions about that yet..."

What I Really Want to Say to #3 - "Why do you think it's ok to tell us how many children we should welcome into our family? Or to hint that, if we want to have more than four children, something may be wrong with us? Maybe we will want to have another biological child, maybe we will want to adopt again, maybe this will be our last child; we don't know for sure, but please don't assume that you know our perfect family size. You don't."

Phew. It felt good to get that off my chest. So far, I've always opted for the polite responses...Nathan says I should be more honest, and use these opportunities as a way to "educate people," but I must say, it's hard to speak calmly and rationally when all I can think about is, "Are you seriously saying this to me?!? Do you realize how rude you sound at this moment???"

Let me reiterate: We are INCREDIBLY excited about the life of this new little one!!! We are not surprised by this new development in our lives. We chose to adopt, not because we couldn't have more biological children, but because we felt God's leading to do so. And please don't die of shock if, a few years down the road, we have another announcement or two, like "Baby LeFeber #5 is coming" or maybe even "Baby LeFeber #6 is coming." We don't know exactly when our family will be "complete."

I really do feel better writing all of this down. Thanks for listening, folks. :)